Are You Being Your Own Biggest Hater? Let’s Talk About It
This week, I’m diving into something that’s been coming up a lot in my own life and in so many conversations with friends, too: the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we sabotage ourselves.
In this solo episode, I’m unpacking why other people don’t actually have the power to block what’s meant for us—but we do. Whether it’s through self-doubt, procrastination, perfectionism, or just plain fear, we can end up being our own biggest haters. I’m also sharing some mindset shifts and honest reflections that have helped me recognize when I’m getting in my own way and how I try to move through it with a little more self-compassion and a lot more clarity. If you’ve ever had that gut feeling that you might be the one holding yourself back… this one’s for you.
Chapters:
[7:49] Retiring Self-Deprecation and Victimhood
[10:09] Perfectionism as Self-Hatred
[17:59] The Harm of Self-Deprecating Humor
[32:29] Dimming Your Own Light
[42:32] Three Ways We Self-Sabotage
[44:46] Becoming Your Own Biggest Fan
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