Stop Being So Realistic: Why You’re Playing Yourself By Playing It Safe
Is being too “realistic” keeping you stuck?
This week, I’m getting into something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately: how being “realistic” can actually be a form of shrinking our goals to fit our fears. In this solo episode, I’m unpacking why being realistic isn’t always the wise or grounded choice it’s made out to be, and how it might actually be self-sabotage disguised as protection. I also share some mindset shifts that have helped me stop shrinking my goals to fit what feels “safe” and start thinking bigger again—without spiraling into overwhelm. If you’ve ever talked yourself out of something because it felt too bold or too unlikely, this one’s for you.
In this episode, I talk about:
Why “being realistic” can be a trap
How I’ve noticed it showing up in my own life
What to do when your big goals start to feel too far away
The difference between grounded strategy and self-sabotage
Encouragement to stop playing small and dream a little bigger
Chapters:
[3:11] Mindset Shifts & Manifestation
[9:34] Realistic Thinking and Breaking Cycles
[15:13] Personal Story: Breaking Out of Mediocrity
[21:45] The Problem with Celebrated Career Paths
[37:33] Luck, Worthiness, and Abundance Mindset
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